Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Home for my new family

I want to be able to combine this pregnancy with preparation for motherhood and preparing my home for Small One.  However, I don't really want to stay here once I've given birth.  That and childcare would be cheap to free in my hometown (my mom would take care of Small One while I work), especially if I'm having more than one.  I'd also love to go back to California to be closer to my friends.  But that's sooo far from my family.  So I'll need to make a decision about that.

The larger issue really is that I want to be able to spend the next 9 months getting all geared up for baby(ies).  But that doesn't seem to make much sense when I figure I'm not going to be living here.

Some living situation context:  My EDD is May 30th.  My lease goes through June 18.  The fee for early termination is one month's rent, so ending the lease one month early (~May 18) doesn't save me any money.  In order to save on rent, I'd have to do early termination of April 18 or earlier.  Have to give 60 days notice.

Option A:  Work through early-mid May.  Pay lease through end.  Birth here.  Move a few weeks after when lease is up.

Option B:  Work through early-mid-May.  Pay lease through end.   Move right after leaving work.  Birth in new city.  (Which means all new docs and hospital)

Any other options I can think of either leave me to be uncomfortable (staying in hotel/with friends for a month) at the end of my pregnancy or leaving work early which impacts me financially, and leave-wise.  In the event that I am having more than one Small One, and have to go on bed rest, there would need to be a contingency plan for that (maybe move home with parents until after the birth).

Ultimately, all of these options lead me to believe that I won't get to do things like set up the baby's room and get the place ready for the new addition to my family.   In all my thinking and planning on the way into this, I seem to have forgotten to really figure out this issue in a way that makes sense and doesn't have me trying to move while enormously pregnant or right after giving birth.  Basically, I need to prepare to pay a lot for movers, because in these scenarios I wouldn't be able to move much on my own.

Okay.  Needed to write this all so that I could put it away for now.  As I see it, I can't do anything about it now.  I'll work on figuring it out in a few months.

ETA:  I did find that my apartment company has a property about 15 minutes from my parents.  That could be super convenient, because I could transfer easily - they only require 30 days notice and an early termination fee (which is less than one month's rent).  That's could be an option.

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